Option or priority?

I feel there are times I have allowed myself to be someone’s option. I now know I no longer want or deserve to be anyone’s option but their priority. For some just starting to date again, maybe someone who doesn’t have a lot of time to date, or not sure what they want, being someone’s option may work for them, as they also may be using the other person, as an option. As long as you are ok with being an option and so is the other person, then you need to do what works for you and your life. I have discovered, in this process, that if someone is truly interested in you, they will give you their time, not excuses. We all have busy schedules, between our kids, jobs, family and friends, but if you are that special to someone, they will find a way to make time for you, just as you will find a way to make time for them, if they are special to you. It may just be an hour talking on the phone, meeting for coffee or a quick I had to see you and give you a hug, sometime. If they always seem to make time for other people and things in their life, but always have an excuse or reason why they can’t talk to or see you, move on! They can tell you all they want, how much they want you, how amazing you are, how much they want to see you and how much they enjoy your company, the rare and few occasions they do see you, but their actions and inactions speak volumes! Maybe you are the person they text when they are bored, the person they see when they have nothing else to do. You need to ask yourself are you this person, just filling a void in their life at that moment? If the answer is yes to any or all these, it doesn’t matter how much you have grown to care or even love this person, end it! You deserve better! Chances are you will never be a priority in their life and always an option! We all deserve someone who can’t wait to see us, talk to us and spend time with us. No matter what you are doing or where you are, it’s not about where you are or what you are doing but the company you are with. Some people who meet have very different social worlds, but if they truly care about each other, that will not matter. Some people who meet are on different financial levels, again if they truly care about each other this should not matter. I feel no one is better than another person and if two people truly care about each other, they learn to fit into one another’s world. A relationship is about compromise and being happy, so if you are in one that makes you more unhappy than happy, end it! I am not talking about just ending a relationship, because you have a few problems, but if you start to become an option and not their priority and you can’t work out your differences, you both aren’t doing the other any favors by staying in the relationship. The more you become an option to each other and not a priority, the longer you are dragging out something and hurting the other person. No one wants to end a relationship, as it’s sad and hurts, when something is over. However, staying because it’s easier to stay then end it, is not fair to either party. So realize, whether it’s in the begin of a relationship or several years in, if you are or have become an option, stand up and say I’m done, we both deserve better and to be happy! PLEASE FOLLOW ME IF YOU LIKE MY BLOG AND YOU WILL GET NOTIFIED WHEN THERE IS A NEW POST. THANKS!

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3 thoughts on “Option or priority?

  1. So I met someone on CL, actually she met me lol, after the 3rd date I felt a spark, that spark has lead into a fire which has become an inferno, I know it’s still early in our relationship but my feelings are 24/7 Priority, is it too early? Btw…we are the same sign, is that a sign?? Lol

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