Love your children no matter what their life choice…

When my son told me that him and his girlfriend were expecting a child, he thought I would yell, scream and lecture him. I didn’t and would never do any of those things, as it wouldn’t change a thing and be pointless. I don’t remember exactly what I said, but something like ok I’m here for you guys and we will figure it all out and then hug my son and told him I loved him. He was blown away, he said it wasn’t the reaction he was expecting and that I’m the best mom in the world. I said no I’m just being your mom.

I lost my first child, my son was premature and we were told he probably wouldn’t live 24 hours. My daughter was born three years later, without any birth control and then I was told I couldn’t have any more children. When my daughter was almost three I needed a hysterectomy. I am thankful and blessed, I was able to have the two children I have, as many can’t have any children.

We raise our children to be good kids, we try and prepare them for the big scary world we live in today. All we can do is teach them right from wrong and our best to instill our values in them. There are times we need to let them make their own choices and even mistakes. As parents, I feel we have to let go here and there, yet guide them. We also need to be supportive, loving and encouraging parents. We may not like the choices our children make at times in their lives, but as long as they are happy, aren’t doing something illegal and/or harmful to themselves or others, we have to let them be their own person and find their way in this world. We may not understand it, we may not like it, we may disapprove, it may not be the choice(s) we would have made, but as their parents even though we may not like it, we have to except it. Some parents have told me no I don’t, well to them I say, are you willing to lose your child because you don’t like or approve of their life choices?

I may not have liked the timing of my son and his girlfriend having a child, but every child is a gift and blessing from God. How could I not be happy about a new life coming into this world and my first grandchild! My sons girlfriend is an amazing young woman! Shortly after he met her he told me she was the one for him. She had to earn my trust, acceptance and love, as any parent can tell you, no one is good enough for their child. She has shown me what a wonderful, sweet and amazing person she is and I know her and my son will make amazing parents. As a parent I will do whatever I can to help them and my granddaughter. I will continue to be a loving, supportive and encouraging parent and also grandparent.

We made the choice to bring our children into this world, they didn’t asked to be born and each and every one of them is a gift from God. So no matter if you approve or not, or what choices or path they take in life, remember support, encourage and love your children no matter what!

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I told him he can’t take you….

I told God he can never take you away

I told him many need you here to stay

I told him your kids and family needed you too

I told him he can not make so many would be sad and blue

I told him he has taken to many close to me

I told him for so many you are the key

I told him so many would be lost without you

I told him for so many what you do

I told him how special you are

I told him as a person you are way above par

I told him down here is where you need to be

I told him for this I want his guarantee

I told him you are not just special to others but also me

© 2018 Teri Fitzgerald.

AMAZING 2018!!!

Taking a break for a bit…Hope everyone has a happy, healthy New Year filled with amazing people and things, health happiness and love!!!

We become the parents to our parents….

My mom took a fall two years ago and was laying on her bedroom floor for almost two days before someone found her, after not being able to reach her. She lives out of state. I hate to think what would have happened, as her organs started to shut down, if it would have been another day.

I flew there three times and she was in bad shape, was in and out of the hospital and rehab. Her health has not been the same and she has many health issues. She has sadly, I believe, given up. She doesn’t take her medicine, eat right or take care of herself. She stopped going out with friends, to her doctors, etc. My friend summed it up best I think “I think it is not reality to her. Like if the doc doesn’t tell me I’m sick than I’m not sick”. So I’m sure that could be her thinking. She will be moving in with one of my siblings, so her diet and medicine can be monitored. Her visit to the doctor, after her blood work, was not good 😦 He told her she can no longer live on her own or drive. There is no cure for the liver disease she has, all they can do is monitor it and make sure she takes the medication, to try and keep it under control, but sadly some day the toxins will take over her body and kill her.

My mother watched my step father and then her high school sweetheart, she reunited with after my step father passed, suffer and die from cancer. I’m sure this plays in my mother’s thinking, with her condition.

It’s hard being so far away from her, but I am planning a couple of long weekends, down to see her. It’s the parent/child circle of life. We are born and our parents take care of us and then at some point we become the parents to our parents and take care of them.

The Book

So many people have told me that I need to write a book and I have started and stopped, started and stopped one, last night I wrote and wrote….I hope by the end of 2018 to have it published……look for it….

To my STALKER

I would love for you to contact me!!! Don’t be a coward go ahead contact me ask me anything and I will tell you the truth!!! Read carefully!!!! You are pathetic!!! I am done as I will no longer sensor my posts!!! Move on or accept it!!! How about not reading my blog!!! And thanks for the compliment that your life is so pathetic that you have to stalk me! I can’t help it if you can’t make someone happy!!! Move on or accept the way things are!!! Watch for Mr. Incredible ;)))))

What do you want?

So to my readers and if you leave a comment I will not have any info on you….please leave what you want to hear or have me write about….thank you….