Valentines Day….

Most of this is from last year with some changes, as I liked it. As this year I have a Valentine I guess you would say…I could careless if I went out tonight, as I feel things are over priced and not as good, as they try for volume. I will go enjoy and treat it like any other date. Hope everyone enjoys their day…

I have to say I was never a real big fan of Valentine’s Day. I have always felt it seemed silly that people needed a holiday, to make them tell and show people they love and care about, how they felt. The people in my life, shouldn’t need a holiday to tell and show me how they feel. I feel every day we should show and tell the people in our lives, how special they are. I’m not saying I want gifts and flowers every day. I feel there are many ways in which we can show and tell people just how special they are to us, without flowers and gifts. My kids one year ask me what I wanted and I told them, I would love it if you would clean my car. They thought I was kidding, but I wasn’t. I feel doing something for someone, making something, giving them a hug, taking a walk with them or sending them a simple text to tell them how special they are, is the most priceless gift you can give someone. I want to be surprised with flowers for no reason. A romantic dinner for no reason. A weekend away just the two of us. A night in, cuddled on the couch, watching a movie. I am a person that enjoys and appreciates the simple things in life. I feel the most precious and priceless things, aren’t things and cost little or no money. The most precious of all things someone can give, is their time. I feel anyone can spend a lot of money and put no effort or thought into a gift. The most precious gifts I have received were homemade and/or with a lot of work and thought put into them. One of the best gifts I received from my children, was a basket full of me things. It was all my favorite things I liked to do, gift cards for a manicure/pedicure, a massage, Starbucks and my favorite shower gel and lotion from Bath and Body Works. This year for Christmas my favorite gift was a mug the says “I Love You To The Moon And Back” from my kids, as I say that to them all the time. Another was a friend took me to dinner and dancing to celebrate my 50th birthday. It was a night of great conversation, company and laughs. I ate more than I should, danced more than I should and stayed out later than I should, but enjoyed myself and had fun. All of these were such sweet and thoughtful gifts. So everyone needs to show the special people in their lives, how special they are, not just because a holiday tells us to, but because we want too!

I have lost too many people in my life, way too soon and unexpectedly. Sometimes we don’t have as much time with the people closest to us, as we thought or would have wanted. Remember no tomorrow is guaranteed!  

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Why play games just be honest…..

Why do so many feel the need to hide the truth, play games and not be honest! Yesterday was a year ago that I burned a dear friend, who was taken way to soon. So again, it’s a reminder that life is to short sometimes, so don’t spend it playing games, be honest with people, especially the ones you care about and love! And the ones that care about and love you! Don’t waste time with people you shouldn’t, just because you feel bad, don’t sweat the small stuff and most importantly, don’t hurt the ones that love and care for you, have always and will always be there for you, no matter what. They are the ones that if you haven’t spoke. In a day, week, month or years, you know you call them, they will be there for you!

Why can’t everyone be up front and honest???

When getting divorced you sometimes realize or discover how much debt you really are in. I myself had a very eye opening experience, as to how much debt I really was in, when I started my divorce process. I also discovered how financially irresponsible, sneaky and dishonest my x was. He felt if you avoid a problem, it will just go away, when in reality, it makes it worse and in some cases, causes you even more debt.

I worked an average of 30 hours at a part time job in addition to my full time job. I don’t make a lot of money, but I’m a very budgeted person. I feel I am so much richer in family, friends, honesty and heart.

I have met man that when the check came, they claimed to just have discovered that they forgot or lost their wallet. Some the day of our date would text me they lost their wallet or their account was frozen, as someone hacked their account. Can these things happen, yes, but in most of these cases, I doubt it. I met a guy who explained he was laid off his job, started his own business and money was very tight for him. I had more respect for him, then someone making up a story, OK lying. I have met guys renting a room, who have moved back with their parents, moved in with his sibling or friends, as these men did not want to over extend their budget. I have more respect for them, for first being honest and second for being financially responsible. Some men are paying, alimony, child support and/or part of the household expenses that their children live in. I am an understanding woman, but come out and be honest from the beginning about your finances. If a woman will only be with you because of the size of your bank account, move on. I can tell you what is important is how a man treats me, if we have a physical, emotional connection and if I can have an intelligent conversation with him. If all you are looking for is sex, be honest, as I am sure there are some women out there that is all they are looking for, also. Everyone is entitled to what they like and want. I have had men say to me, do you know how long it has been since I had sex, I want it, I need it. My answer is well get to know me and in time if we connect that may happen, but don’t push the issue, as for me that’s a big turn off and if will be even longer before you have sex again.

Is it nice to have a man, be a gentleman, take you to dinner and treat, yes. We are in 2018, so I feel yes, in the beginning a gentleman should pay, but as time goes on, the relationship progresses, then maybe he pays for dinner and I pay for the movie or he treats one time and you treat another. I love to cook, so when we get to that point, then I would enjoy cooking for a man, especially if he cooks with me or even better yet, he cleans up 🙂

Just be honest, as I can’t speak for others, but for me that’s all I want and will have so much more respect for an honest man. These men, I feel, think we are stupid and are going to fall for their lines. I will admit, when I was first dating after my divorce I did, but live and learn!

Living alone….

For the first time in my life I’m living alone. My son has moved to his girlfriends, as they are having a baby in May. My daughter is away at College. I’m not totally alone, I have my two dogs, so I’m not totally alone. It has been an adjustment for me and the dogs. I have to allow extra time in the morning to feed the dogs and let them out, before work. The dogs are use to my son coming home very late or being up late hours, so they have been waking me at all different hours. I will admit I feel exhausted, like when my kids were little. I’m sure they will get use to the new schedule in time, but as soon as they do, my daughter will be home in May from school lol. I was ordering my meals from a place that makes healthy, fresh meals, but they went out of business this week 😦 My son comes by during the day if he has time and lets the dogs out and sometimes takes a nap. I’m sure once my granddaughter arrives those naps will be more often lol. I sometimes forget that although I live alone, I do have windows and neighbors that can see in lol. I am enjoying the peace and quiet, but do miss my kids, sometimes. I will admit it is lonely at times, but for now I am enjoying it. I fill my time, keep busy, but my kids have always and will always come first!

Make the most of each day….

I’m a little all over with this one, but I think you will get what I’m trying to say…..

I have said this many times, no tomorrow is guaranteed, so make every moment count, tell the people you love how you feel, forgive those that hurt you, don’t have any regrets, do what makes you happy. Live for today, forget yesterday it’s gone, don’t worry about tomorrow it hasn’t happened yet, but live for today, as it is the present. (I don’t know the exact quote or who said it sorry)

I watched four children, a husband, parents, sisters and many other love ones, say goodbye to their mother, wife, daughter, sister, etc., almost two weeks ago. Last year I said goodbye to a dear friend, who was like a brother. He was 44, he collapsed and died in front of his two young children. I have lost so many, way too soon. I am a person who was raised Catholic, always attended church, yet at times I have struggled, wondered why God would take such good people, yet let others still walk this earth. I wonder if it is his way of telling us to not hold grudges, let the little things go, tell the people we love that we love them, when we have the chance. Teach us to cherish every day, as we never know when it will be our love ones or our last day on this earth. To teach us to treat everyone and everything, as if it is.

They say when one life ends another begins. I wonder if that is true, as my son and his girlfriend told me they were expecting a child right after my uncle lost his battle to cancer. I know we are only on loan on this earth, but sadly some are here for a much shorter time than others. I try every day to live in the moment, as much as humanly possible, try to do the right thing by the people in my life, try not to have any regrets or to take any day for granted, it’s not always easy. I feel God will help guide us to be better people and to help others. I feel He doesn’t abandon us or hate us, if we mess up a little, as long as we learn from those missteps and try every day to be a better person.

So please try to remember to tell the people you love how you feel, hug your kids, your parents, loved ones and tell them you love them, treat people the way you want to be treated, cut toxic and drama filled people from your life and find what truly makes you happy in this life, as you only get one. Try not to waste what precious moments you have on this earth doing what doesn’t make you happy or with people that bring you unhappiness. They say life is short and sometimes some of us find out just how short it is, so live, love, enjoy and be happy.

A getaway

A get away to AC

A relaxing time hopefully

Some shopping during the day

Take time clear the cobwebs away

Enjoy a nice dinner and some romancing

Enjoy great music and some dancing

Try our luck at the slots

Have some drinks and shots

Return to the room when we are done

Enjoy each other and some bedroom fun

© 2018 Teri Fitzgerald

I want it to be you….

When I am down and feeling blue

I want you to be the one to ask what you can do

When I feel out of control with emotions

I want you to be the one there with devotion

When I need someone to lend me their ear

I want you to be the one to be there

When I need to vent I want you to be there for me

I want you to show me the future that I can’t see

When I need to be held and a hug

I want you to be the one to hold me so snug

I want you to not just be my lover but also my friend

I want you to be there for me from beginning to the end

When you need all the same

I want you to call out my name

© 2018 Teri Fitzgerald