Remembering, yet trying to forget that someone special

Sometimes at night I close my eyes and I can smell you

Sometimes as I lay there I can also taste you too

I can feel your soft fingers caressing my body and skin

I can remember how your lips tasted in each kiss

I can feel the place you took me to of bliss

I can feel the sheer place of beyond fulfillment of pleasure

It’s a place where time can’t be measured

It’s a place that’s beyond anything you can dream

It’s like a fire running through your bloodstream

It’s not the quantity but the quality of the extreme

It’s a blend of two bodies that create amazing steam

It’s a pleasure you can never get enough

As when they are near all it takes is a touch

The steam flies and it’s some amazing hot stuff

It’s hard to forget when you have a memory of an amazing night or nights with someone and you two really connected. You can’t seem to get them or that night(s) out of your head. You wish it was something that happened more, yet know it probably will not. You compare them to all others, which you know isn’t fair, but you can’t help it. When you have been taken to a place of sheer pleasure, something that was more amazing than you could ever have dreamed or imagined, it is difficult to be with another. With them, it is not just the sex, but the conversation, the way they look at you, smile at you, laugh with you and their affection towards you. It seems although you know it’s probably nothing more than a fantasy, you can’t seem to let it go. At night when you are laying there trying to sleep, you close your eyes and you can smell them. You can see their smile, their eyes, hear their laugh and feel their touch on your skin. When you meet someone new, there it is, it pops into your head. When you kiss someone else, for a moment you forget all about them and then at the end of the night, you have a slight feeling of disappointment, even though you had a good time, because you are thinking of them. You wish there was a switch to turn this memory off. I know I always say life is too short not to take a chance and do what makes you happy, but it also is too short to wait around for something that may never happen. I have grown so much in this process, that I know what I like, dislike, what I wish for and want in life. Sometimes I do feel that people and this person don’t understand and appreciate me completely. I also feel that maybe they don’t accept me for who I am. I want to be the woman a man wants, loves and needs, not a woman who needs a man. I struggle with this memory I have, of this amazing person and the great times we shared. I feel that deep down, when I meet the right person, they will make me pack that memory away and I will finally find true happiness and love again.

Take a chance

I also write poetry…..

If you open yourself up to love, you open yourself up to pain

Sometimes it’s worth it and sometimes it all goes down the drain

Sometimes you just have to take a chance and dance in the rain

Sometimes you have to break down your wall and break all the chains

As maybe this time it will be amazing and not lame

For once, just don’t think and live life in the fast lane

Maybe just maybe, this time you will find love again
We have all opened our hearts to love and been hurt. Some of us more than once, maybe many times. Some relationships, ended well, some we have walked away from learning something and some were fun while they lasted. Some relationships started out good, but turned bad over time, some we stayed in way longer than we should have and others were nothing short of misery. All these relationships, good or bad, we walked away learning  something about ourselves, growing as a person and knowing what we do and don’t want in our next relationship. Whether we had good or bad relationships in the past, we need to just take a chance and try again. We need to try to remove any walls we may have put up from our past relationships, as not everyone is going to be like the people in our past relationships. We need to not think too much about our past, live in the moment and enjoy the present and not live in the past. Sometimes when we are looking for something to be wrong that isn’t there, what we have dies, instead of growing into something wonderful and beautiful. It’s not always easy to forget about the past, as some past relationships leave wounds. Those wounds, in turn leave us with scars. The scars people can’t see, are sometimes the hardest to cover up. We need to find a way to place the past behind and move forward. The next person you meet may be the right person, everything will connect and you will find love again. Life is too short to give up on love.

Enjoy the quality of time, not the quantity

Sometimes you meet someone and connect, but the only drawback is the time they can give you is limited. They can sneak away for an early morning and a late night walk, a late dinner, a late night drink, a quick afternoon lunch, etc. You list their positives and negatives and discover their positives, outweigh their negatives. You have met some in the past, that could give you so much time and either you don’t connect with them, their negatives outweigh their positives, they don’t make the time for you or their actions don’t show they care. I always say it’s not about quantity, but quality. In the last couple of days, they made the time to enjoy a late night walk along the ocean, a late dinner and was in touch here and there throughout the day. This was all done while spending quality time with their children this weekend. First, by being in touch, it showed me I was on their mind. Second, by making some time for me, without taking away their quality time, with their children, it showed me their children come first. Where there is a will, there is a way and actions speak louder than words. Our time together was short, but in that time their actions showed me how much they truly care about me. When someone cares they will show it. I have found that an hour with the right person is way better than eight hours with the wrong person. Most of us have been through an unhappy marriage, whether it was the two of you stopped communicating, having sex, no longer affectionate, grew apart or just plain unhappy. Why would you ever want to be in another relationship again, where you were more unhappy than happy? So when you meet someone who you connect with, enjoy their company, laugh together, etc., don’t look at how much time they can give you, but the quality of time they give you! A person who doesn’t have a lot of time, but makes time for you, is better than someone who has the time and doesn’t make time for you. You might come after their children, family and sometimes their job, but as long as you are one of their priorities, you will always know it. You will not doubt their feelings or that they care about you.   

Mother’s Day Blessings

On Mother’s Day we all count our blessings, our mothers or miss them, if they have passed. For those that are mothers, we either look at our little ones in amazement or reflect back on our children growing up and wonder where the time has gone. The grandmothers look at their precious grandchildren with joy. It is the day we honor all mothers, whether they were our mother by blood, adoption, took on the role of our mother or fathers that have taken on both the role of mother and father. On this Mother’s Day I looked back on all that my children have been through in their lives, from my son being born premature and beating the odds, my daughter overcoming anxiety, to the both of them dealing with the divorce of their parents and all the ups and downs that went along with it. I have admitted, I didn’t always handle things well at times, but have always apologized to them and have and will always, put my children first, during this whole process. We have always had an open line of communication, even if in the end we don’t agree, they know they can come to me, speak their minds and talk about anything and everything. I may have tried to hard, at times,  to resolve an issue, but it’s only because, like most parents, I can’t stand to see my children get hurt or hurting. I would rather take the brunt of anger for trying to change a situation for them, so my children are no longer hurting. My children have been my rock, at times when I felt the whole world was against me. They have been their to wipe my tears, give me a hug, be by my side and tell me they are thankful for all that I do, as I have been for them also. We have had our ups and downs, like any parent child relationship. They are amazing kids, but still kids. They still leave the dishes in the sink, clothes on the floor, don’t clean up after cooking or making a mess, etc. They also will drive me crazy, as with any teens/young adults, plans change all the time and they assume you will change with them. I will admit, I get frustrated at times, as when plans change for them, it means my plans change or are cancelled. I have cancelled dates, plans with friends, left as soon as I arrived somewhere or sat home waiting all night. It may sound like I am complaining and yes a small part of me is, but I would never trade this for anything. I love my kids with all my heart, they truly are a blessing! I want to thank my children for being my rock at times. This divorce has not been easy for me, but most importantly it has not been easy for them. We have all learned along the way, as none of us had ever gone through this before. Some people have told me I do too much for my children, but I would rather be accused of doing too much than too little. So this Mother’s Day I am thankful for my mother, two grandmothers and other women in my life, that taught me to be the strong woman I am today and for the two greatest blessing God has given me, my two children.

Recharge you mind and body

A evening mini vacation at the Holiday Inn…sometimes you just need to recharge your battery but can’t go away so a night at the local Holiday Inn may be just what you need to forget your troubles, recharge your battery and forget the world for a while. You check in and and go to your room. You take a shower, freshen up, get dressed and head to the bar. You sit down at the bar and pretend you are on a business trip. A guy at the bar sends you a drink, you go sit next to him and introduce yourself. You both decide to go into the restaurant and have dinner. You enjoy a great dinner with great conversation and lots of laughs. You slip your shoe off during dinner and gently massage his crotch with your foot. He places his hand on your knee, then gently slides it up your leg, under your dress, where he discovers you are pantie free. After dinner you two head back to your room. Even though you know each other, the people sitting at the bar thought you just met. The people at the bar watched the two of you go into the restaurant and then leave together towards the rooms. It added a thrill and excitement to the night. Once you get to the room he needs to shower, after his long day. You wait until the shower starts and he is in the shower. You then slip into the shower and join him. You wash each other, massaging each part of each other’s bodies. He then begins to wash your hair. It is so relaxing, his hands are so soft through your hair, you could fall asleep right there in the shower. When he’s done he begins to kiss your neck, and massage your breasts from behind. You turn and kiss him so passionately. He then whispers in your ear that he wants you and must have you. He makes sweet love to you right there in the shower. You guys leave the shower and make your way to the bed. He tells you to flip over on your stomach. He then starts massaging your feet and works his way up your body. Once he gets to your neck he then begins to gently kiss your neck. He flips you over and makes sweet love to you over and over again. You then fall asleep in each other’s arms. You wake up in the early morning hours to him kissing you. He again makes sweet love to you and then invites you to take a shower with him. After the shower you both don’t want to, but need to get dressed and ready for work. He thanks you for a night of wonderful passion. He kisses you and you both say goodbye, until the next time.

Starting your life as your children are theirs

You find yourself sitting home more and more, as your young adult children you have raised are now forming their own lives. You start to realize you are tired of sitting home and start going out with friends, more and more and maybe even start to date. Your children don’t seem to like this, as you have always been home, at their beck and call and now you are not. Your young adult children need to realize that as they get older and form their own lives, their parent(s) need to get on with their life and not sit around all alone, while they are out having fun. Soon they will be around less and less, that leaves the parent(s) sitting home all alone. Do they expect us to sit around taking in stray cats and/or dogs and to be all alone? They need to not be so selfish and realize their parent(s) gave so much of their time and themselves, while they were growing up and now it’s time for them to have a life and fun. This sometimes is hard for the young adult children, as they are used to the parent being there whenever and for whatever they needed. This is also hard on the parent, as they feel guilty when they are out and their child(ren) need them. It is especially difficult and frustrating when the child or children have another parent they can ask, but don’t or that parent chooses not to help out. Sometimes the other parent feels they aren’t going to help the primary parent out, but they aren’t helping the primary parent they are hurting the children, when they do this. This is why they become to rely solely on the primary parent and have given up on asking the other parent to do anything for them. To me this is sad, as I have said before, the children didn’t want or ask for the divorce and therefore, both parents should be as involved as they can, in the children’s lives. Our children grow up in the blink of an eye and we should cherish every moment of it. Our children also need to realize that their parents deserve to be happy too. I know it can’t be easy for the children to see their parent(s), with someone else. It may not be all that easy for the parent either to move on, but they know they deserve to be happy again and have a life of their own. I would not trade one minute with my children and do not regret for one second everything and anything I have done for them. My children will always come first, no matter how old they are! I would never be with someone who didn’t understand me putting my children first or that didn’t put their children first! So it may be hard for my children to accept me being with another person and forming my own life, but I think we have a pretty open and great relationship and we will work through it. There are times we have not agreed, but in the end we talk it out and sometimes agree to disagree! So children you need to realize your parent(s), deserve to move on and be happy, as much as you deserve to form your own life and be happy. Again, communication is key and I encourage both children and parents to always keep the lines of communication open and don’t make your children feel that they can’t come to you and talk about anything and everything. You will not always agree, but should be able to come to a compromise or agree to disagree. Everyone deserves happiness and a happy life. PLEASE FOLLOW ME IF YOU LIKE MY BLOG AND YOU WILL GET NOTIFIED WHEN THERE IS A NEW POST. THANKS!